It’s a question that comes up so much in Brene’ Brown’s book Rising Strong, that there’s almost an entire chapter dedicated to it
Her book is about leadership, compassion, and empathy, but a main theme throughout is how we use the stories we create about our world to protect, guard, and stunt our own growth- and what we can do about it
The question of doing the best you can comes up in every session I coach at Organic Fitness because it’s always about starting from your effort
It’s not about the weights, or how fast you can do something, unless it’s done correctly none of that matters to your body
Doing the best you can also means starting from where you are Right Now, and I can tell you from experience that adults are not great at that
In fact put a bunch of adults in a room and teach them 1 exercise with an expert, intermediate and begginer level and where do you think most people will start?
The expert level
Maybe because the story in your head of who you are or should be won’t allow you to be a beginner
Or because hey if everyone else is doing that then I should do that too.
This mentality cannot only be limiting, it can be down right destructive
If we don’t allow ourselves to be beginners at something, how do we feel when we see other adults take up roles as beginners?
Do we judge them? Do we measure up to see where we stand? Do we get self righteous about the fact that we’re not beginners
See what I mean…
It’s impossible to create growth from a place of judgment, whether you’re judging yourself or someone else
So the question of Are you doing the best you can, really is a focusing question not a judgment question
Where are you right now? And how are you doing there?
If you don’t know the answers to these questions that’s the first problem
If you go to the gym and don’t know whether your improving, you just do what the instructor tells you to do and get sweaty….
What information do you have from that experience? Is it mindless movement because yes – exercise is good for you- or do you have goals you’re trying to reach like walking up the stairs without getting winded, being able to do pushups, losing body fat and gaining muscle?
Because growth is a process, just like getting stronger and being more confident
And when you start to use your brain power to make conscious decisions about how you spend your time, if you plan out your meals and go shopping, and developing physical goals you aspire to and work on everyday at the gym
That’s when you get control of your life
But it won’t come from mindless movement and going through the motions with your nutrition and exercise
Maya Angelou has a great quote that’s relevant here because it’s about what happens before you can do better…
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
First you must know better…
So the real question is what steps are you taking to Know Better in areas of your life where you want to improve?
In work, relationships, self-care?
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